Don’t wait until you’re out of control!!!

Even in the year 2012 mental health still has a negative connotation. It is more acceptable to take a pill for depression than to talk with a licensed professional. This is partly because of the pharmaceutical companies smart advertising campaigns that offer the quick fix. I believe in medication but I also believe in correcting the problems if possible that lead to depression, anxiety, relationship struggles, and addiction. Medication can help with symptoms but does not always fix the problem.

Most times there is a fear when going to a therapist. It is fear of the unknown. Many of us are taught to keep quiet…not air our dirty laundry. So going to a stranger to talk about our intimate relationships, our parents or our children can often feels like betrayal to those we love. It is not about betrayal but perspective. When we are involved in the problem we can’t possibly understand all the dynamics because we are part of the interpersonal dynamics.

Therapists must comply with HIPPA and sessions are confidential except in very special circumstances that are explained prior to beginning treatment. Therapists are mandated by certain laws to report child and elder abuse. They also have a duty to protect you and others if they feel you are in danger of hurting yourself or someone else.

If you haven’t been to a therapist before then keep in mind that we are not all the same. If you find that you don’t relate or you feel uncomfortable then try someone else. Think about your comfort zone. Would you be comfortable taking with someone of the opposite sex? Is age a consideration for you? Is the environment created by the therapist welcoming and safe? Talk to them on the phone and interview them. Ask your friends for recommendations or your physician for an appropriate referral. The most important thing to remember is that this is about you and you need to feel comfortable so you will be willing to be open and honest.

So What Happens?

Once you get behind closed doors and into my office, what happens depends on you and your goals.  In my experience, as we spend time together all of the definitions below will be included in our work together.  If you are in crisis, we will have more of a counseling relationship.  If they crisis involves family members or a spouse then some family exploration and dynamics will be incorporated. The therapeutic relationship is fluid and evolves when trust is established and understanding occurs.

 What is important is that it is your time to explore you… your thoughts, feelings, behaviors and relationships.

 

Laura Rothafel – a marriage and family therapist serving Villa Park, Tustin, Anaheim Hills, and Orange. For over 22 years I have been working with families who struggle with drug and alcohol issues, communication difficulties, depression and life transitions. Together we will work to create strategic interventions that assist you in your treatment goals.